Softly Whispered: September 2010

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Living by the rules pt. I

A few months ago, I was encountered by a weird, yet an eye-opening confession. This post may not make any sense and seem confusing to the most of you, since you probably absolutely have no clue as to what I'm talking about. But long story short, the confession that was professed to me has truly changed the way I think, I act, I speak. It has changed ME.

When my friend spoke up to me regarding the matter, I didn't feel a thing at first. I thought it had nothing to do with me, so what care should I give? But as time passed and we grew, I started to realize how big of a deal it was. I decided that it was a topic in need of further explanation. I didn't want to just leave it there. One day during a casual conversation, I tried asking him to tell me more about it; the entire truth. I dug in deeper. And deeper. And even deeper. We nearly came to the conclusion in tears. It was one of the most moving, heart-wrenching experiences for the both of us.

You don't know how difficult it was for me to hear his story, to recognize and accept the reality of it, and to digest the fact that it actually happened in real life. For some people, it may have not been a big deal, but for me it was like an electric shock to the bones, a galvanizing raid to my nervous system. I didn't know what to do, lest to say anything stupid after hearing such an appalling disclosure.

His story alone has altered my perception on things. I can never look at certain things or people the same, even until this present day. Though I don't mean that in a negative context. His story has allowed me to reflect upon my own life and on which qualities I need to improve. I've learned to be more forgiving, accepting, understanding, LOVING, patient,... the list goes on. I've also freed myself from the distress of worry and dreadful attributes that prevent one from achieving the perfect happiness.

How wonderful is this picture-quote-list piece of media that I found earlier today:

5 simple rules for happiness. 5. SIMPLE. Rules. Do they sound simple? Maybe easier read than done.

Today, this post only specifically touches upon the first 2 points. I will do later posts on the other 3. As I was saying, I'm not denying that I was quite disappointed when I first heard the story. However, I've also learned to accept what has happened and move on from the past -- HIS past. I understand that no matter how bland, sweet, sour, bitter is someone's past, it will always linger. BUT, what happened and passed now becomes the past and it no longer matters to the future. "Don't let your past dictate your future", someone wise has said. I believe we have a bright future, in spite of what has previously occurred.

Charles R. Swindoll wisely stated, "We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude."

I cannot change my friend's past. I cannot change whatever relations he may have had in the past -- people he associated with. But, I AM capable of changing my view towards my blunt consciousness of his past.

I fully comprehend the circumstances and my inability to change the past. Hence, I have chosen NOT to. So in reference to the 5 simple rules, I can say that I am free. I've freed myself from negative, detrimental thoughts. There is no hatred. And I am not worried. I have understood, accepted, forgiven. By this, I can now live in happiness. Perfect? Maybe not. But every effort you make toward happiness is one inch closer to its fulfillment. And I very much desire to live my life to the full, to the completion of my happiness.

Verse of the day:

"Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else." ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:15

**Remember,

Love forgives, love accepts, love understands, love HEALS. :)

I love you.

Picture source: weheartit.com

Estranged Tumblr

Hey guys,

I do own a Tumblr, which is located here: lanoisette.tumblr.com.

I've had it for more than a year, but I RARELY update it. Feel free to check it out if you're interested. I've noticed that several people are on this Tumblr frenzy thing. I have too many blogs to moderate and even to count.

Sorry for this tiny random post. I will do a real update SOON. Literally.